Oy I am a bad blogger! I really should swing by here a bit more often, yes?
Thank you all for your thoughts on my last post–especially to Jenna. Dudes do y’all know Jenna? She is such a rock star in the adoption blogosphere. I’m honored you stopped by. 
So I’ve put the word out to the extended family that we are not willing to hear any comments about how often we are chatting with the boy’s birthmom. I so strongly feel that the two of us will figure out where our relationship and our relationship with our son is going. I really feel it is the best for the boy that we have this openness. I’m lucky and blessed that she wants to stay in touch, and really nobody can dish on Amer!can !dol like she can.
As for the boy, he is a month old. That is so seriously crazy I can’t believe it. I’m trying to get my mama groove on, and when I look at how far the hub and I have come, I think it is working.
Hi, Bebe:
Just got the news from a fellow blogger (Millie) that we are in the same locale. We adopted our beautiful AA daughter in October (so she is about five months) and would love to get together sometime. She is also lactose intolerant, although our pediatrician diagnosed it right away — yay, doc!
DH is a stay at home dad and I’m not sure of your situation, but we really would like to meet other transracial adoptive families in the area. Feel free to e-mail and hope to hear from you soon . . .
I just discovered your blog today and really enjoyed reading through it. Thank you so much for sharing your story… we are in the process of sorting out where to go from being told straight off, donor eggs or adoption, and its great reading other people’s paths to parenthood. It gives me hope.
I also think that it is not creepy or strange at all that you are in frequent contact with the birthmom. It makes a lot of sense to me. It just sounds like you are keen to leave open the possibility of what you hoped for:
“I have seen adoption done really beautifully. Where it really works. Where all the parents commit to a child. Where love works in a way no one imagined. Where I think that maybe just maybe this will be okay. Different, but okay.”
Hoping you are all having a wonderful time together. Let us know how you are when you get teh chance.